Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Learning To Fly

I was telling Ms L yesterday how sick I was of feeling unhappy. She asked me if I was going to stop being unhappy then. Such a simple question. It makes perfect sense. If you're sick of being unhappy then stop it.


This morning I woke up with the weight of the world resting firmly on my shoulders. The conversation of yesterday must have planted a seed deeply in my subconscious somewhere and after dragging for a while I decided to be happy. Just like that. I'm still sad too but I'm happy. I'm OK. Life is good. I'm lucky.

It's was so easy to let recent sadness catapult me right back to feeling lost and confused and feeling like life will never change, that I'll never fulfill my dreams.


But today I didn't feel that way. I felt happy. I saw new pathways unfolding and felt new ideas starting to form. I enjoyed the amazing sunshine and warmth. I smiled and laughed and imagined all sorts of wonderful creative dreams coming true.

18 comments:

  1. It is a bit of a journey, isn't it? May your happiness outshine the sadness!

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  2. I like Ms. L's no nonsense approach.
    Often easier to say than do...but good on you for making that jump.
    Life is pretty good really.
    Run with those ideas and have fun making them happen!!

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  3. Good for you. I hear it was a fabulous day yesterday to feel good.

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  4. In the past I've decided to 'not be sad' but I can see there's so much more to be gained from deciding to be happy. Nice take on it there.

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  5. Way to go! It's not always that easy but making a conscious decision is a huge jump in the right direction.....I'm happy for you!

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  6. Apparently, the key to happiness is to start being happy. I'm happy for you and I like your attitude. If you don't like it; change it. It's all in the mind! Am I talking out of my arse? NO! I recently applied this principle to something in particular which was shitting me to tears, and it worked :))

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  7. I can so relate. For me, deciding to be happy doesn't kill off the ache, but I find throwing myself into something distracting works wonders.
    Big hugs for you.

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  8. Yes!! I know those days... it can be so hard to drag yourself out of that feeling...but you can :)
    Love the bird collage btw, awesome.

    x

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  9. The collage is lovely, and I like Ms L's suggestion! It changes the focus and outlook to a positive one without denying the bad bits.

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  10. I love the collage. Ms L is right, but it's up to the person to make that choice. It has to feel "right" and sometimes wallowing in a bit of sadness can be good for the soul too.

    Hope you continue choosing the happy though. Or that the happy continues choosing you. xoxo

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  11. Hurrah! I think we choose to be happy -- or not. Or to worry about whether it matters, too. It can be a long dig, but it sounds like you dug down and found a bit of it all for yourself. Perhaps the gorgeousness of that collage helped!

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  12. Choose happiness ... everyday.
    That's my motto.
    Some days it's a harder choice ... but there's always a choice.
    Good luck Tinnie Girl.

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  13. well done you, for being able to turn on the happy... :)
    it's good to remind ourselves every now and then about what we've got to be happy about, it's all too easy to get stuck in the dulldrums. getting crafty is always a great distraction too... :)

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  14. "Most people are as happy as they make their minds up to be" - Abraham Lincoln.

    It sounds like you've turned a corner. Saddness has a place in life, if only to make us appreciate how good it feels to be happy. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better.

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  15. Oh she is quite clever that Miss L, Hope you are smiling right now, even if every bit of inside isn't. I am one of those that thinks I have to be all happy or sad or angry, instead still feel sad for one thing and hapy about other bits.

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  16. Great post, the key for me is to choose. Sometimes I might even choose to be sad and as long as I remember it's a choice thats ok. Mostly though I choose happy, glad you have too.

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  17. I remember the first time I laughed after some deep sadness. It was a revelation. I observed that I didn't have to chose one feeling over the other - they coexisted rather than replaced. It took the pressure off and began for me the process of integration.

    When I'm sad, I embrace it. And when I'm happy, I embrace it. And when I feel like I'd like to engage in happiness, I make something. The act of creating is nourishing and one can't help but feel better when well nourished.

    Lots of love coming your way.

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  18. There are some really lovely new-to-me posts to be read scrolling down your blog but this one is a perfect way to start my today. That's it. I'm logging off and deciding NOT to procrastinate and that way I'll NOT be stressed about the work ahead and will instead dive in and CHOOSE to come up with some whizz-bang, remarkably creative solution to a design problem. Er, wish me luck.

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